How Do You Know Which Thoughts to Believe?

“The interpretation that makes you ardent and hopeful and active and reverent is the true one.” This quote from Rumi offers guidance for which thoughts to follow and which to discard.

Have you suspected or seen through the limitations of New Age magical thinking, but you still sense that there is magic at work in the world? I coach men and women in the spiritual principles behind the way the mind works in all situations, which gives my clients immense leverage in solving problems and both recognizing and rising to opportunities
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Traction and the Goal Paradox

There’s a paradox around goal setting that, if you don’t understand it, can keep you from getting traction with the things that matter. Yes, you need to set goals to get traction, but you also need to hold them lightly.

Have you suspected or seen through the limitations of New Age magical thinking, but you still sense that there is magic at work in the world? I coach men and women in the spiritual principles behind the way the mind works in all situations, which gives my clients immense leverage in solving problems and both recognizing and rising to opportunities.
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What The Matrix Can Tell Us About Traction or Why “Just Do It” Doesn’t Do It

The Matrix PosterI’ve been watching The Ultimate Matrix, a mind-bending 10 DVD package of all three Matrix films plus a week’s worth of special features, including six hours of commentary by philosophers Ken Wilber and Cornell West.

Do I know how to have fun, or what?

Anyhow, one scene from the first film struck me as particularly pertinent to the problem of getting traction on the things that matter.

After receiving his martial arts training, Neo faces Morpheus for a test of skill. In the midst of the fight, they stop for a second.

Morpheus: What are you waiting for?! You’re faster than this. Don’t think you are. Know you are.

They begin fighting again; Morpheus keeps on trying to get Neo to improve.

Morpheus: Come on! Stop trying to hit me and hit me!

I think one reason we don’t get traction with the things that matter is that we wait to take action until we think we are ready, when the knowledge that we are ready can only emerge out of action.

We become preoccupied with trying to get a result, when results can only be achieved when we stop trying and act in the moment.

“Just Do It!” doesn’t do it when you’re caught up in thinking

The injunction, “Just do it!” won’t move you forward, if you’re caught up in your thinking, hyper-focused on whether or not doing it will turn out the way you want.

In fact, the more pressure you put on yourself to do it, when you’re in a pressured state of mind, the more stuck you’re going to get.

Somehow, you need to get out of your mind and into action.

That’s where a mastermind group can make all the difference.

The Traction Mastermind can get you out of your head and into action

The Traction Mastermind is a 16-week group coaching program for only six men and women who are smarter than the average bear but are stuck (or in danger of getting stuck) with something that matters deeply. They know what they want to create or accomplish, even if the steps are not mapped out yet, and they feel called to take action now.

The Traction Mastermind is designed to:

  • Give you clarity and confidence to create what you’d love to create, not just now, but any time.
  • Take focused action and produce momentum on that project you’ve been spinning your wheels on, so that the more action you take, the easier it gets.
  • Help you take ownership of your greatest gifts and use them more fully in the world.
  • Cultivate compassion with yourself and quiet your inner critic so you can enjoy showing up for your life.
  • Sustain your energy and enthusiasm about your life and the direction it is taking.

And through it all, The Traction Mastermind will help you be fully present, able to experience the joy of each moment, even as you deliberately go about creating your future. (One of my clients calls this “living in the present perfect.”)

The Traction Mastermind begins Wednesday, September 24th

This week you could start getting traction on whatever has had you spinning your wheels. A book. A new career. A community project. It could be something life altering or something that’s may not appear earth shaking but has real importance for you.

Whatever it is, if you want to stop spinning your wheels, I invite you to check out the Traction Mastermind now.

Click here for details and an application.

One of my favorite things in the world is seeing folks get traction on what matters to them. If it’s the right time, I would love to help you do that.

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How do you get off the dang dime?

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We’ve all been there, perched on the brink of something new. Full of ideas and inspiration. Eager to make something happen. And yet…

Life has a way of getting in the way sometimes. Or not life exactly, but how we hold things in our lives. How we imagine them, relate to them, organize them, think about them.

There’s a way in which we can go around in circles in our minds, working quite hard, but not making any actual progress.

It can be crazy making. And the more time we spend spinning our wheels in this way, the worse things get.

We have trouble making simple decisions. We get caught up in perfectionism or second guessing or self-doubt.

And so the question arises, how do you get off the dang dime?

What you do at this point matters

One option is to push through, no holds barred. Batten down the hatches. Man the torpedoes. Don’t look up until you’ve done the thing.

And that can work. But the cost can be very high. You can end up burning bridges as well as the midnight oil, wearing out relationships as well as your adrenals.

A better way is to tap into wisdom

A much better way to get off the dime, to get traction on something important, is to tap into wisdom. Your own wisdom and that of the collective.

Because wisdom is there, you know. It’s ever present and endlessly available.

What varies is your ability to access it at a given point in time.

You can get better at tapping into wisdom

The more you understand about how your moment-to-moment thinking creates your experience of reality, the better you get at discerning wisdom from all the voices competing for air time in your head.

The better you get at discerning that difference, the more confidence you will have in the guidance you receive.

And the more you trust your guidance, the easier it is to get off the dime.

Wisdom is the key to getting traction on the things that matter

Wisdom, not struggle, is the key to getting traction. It’s not just about working smarter, it’s about working wiser.

Wisdom is a key theme of the Traction Mastermind group that begins next Wednesday, September 24, 2014. The group includes facilitated mastermind calls, individual coaching, and customized structures for acountability.

The Traction Mastermind is for men and women who are smarter than the average bear but feel stuck anyway. They sense there is something in spiritual principles that might help them get unstuck, but they distrust New Age “happy talk.” They know what they want to create or accomplish, even if the steps are not mapped out yet, and they feel called to take action now.

If that sounds like you, take a look now and see if it resonates. If so, send me your application, and we’ll have a conversation to see it it’s a fit.

Click here for details: shaboominc.com/traction-mastermind

Also, I would deeply appreciate your help spreading the word. If someone comes to mind immediately as a possible fit, would you tell them now about the program?

Thank you!

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PS: In some respects, the best candidate for a mastermind group is someone who doesn’t need one. What I mean by that is that it’s not about needing help so much as it is about being ready to engage with a group of peers who are committed to each other’s vision. It’s about relaxing more into your strengths even as you are step up to play a bigger game.

 

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Can Being Spiritual Make You Happy?

Practicing spirituality to attain happiness can’t work. Happiness is in our nature; it’s the ground of our being. We lose sight of that in the midst of our human experience, but it never goes away. Happiness is not something to attain, it’s something to come from.

Molly Gordon is a Master Certified Coach who works with men and women who have suspected or seen through the limitations of New Age magical thinking, but still sense that there is magic at work in the world. She teaches the spiritual principles behind the way the mind works in all situations, which gives her clients immense leverage in solving any problem or taking advantage of any opportunity.

Learn more at: shaboominc.com/coaching

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