How to Stop Negative Thinking

What if the secret to controlling or stopping negative thinking is as simple as stopping? We don’t get to choose which thoughts come across our mental landscape, but we absolutely get to decide how much significance to accord them. When we analyze, excavate, or deconstruct negative thinking, we innocently feed it. When we withdraw attention and significance from it, it changes.

Click here to link to the Bob Newhart clip I talk about in the video.

This summer I have a few openings for clients who are wary of being hornswoggled by New Age “happy talk” yet sense that there are spiritual principles that could give them more leverage in life and business. If that sounds like you, click here for more information and to contact me for an interview.

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Wellbeing Is Our True Nature

Wholeness is our nature, our default condition. When we remember that we are essentially whole we attach less significance to the ups and downs of our moment-to-moment human experience. We don’t have to get out of the human experience in order to be utterly safe and home, in order to remember our innate wellbeing.

This summer I have a few openings for clients who are wary of being hornswoggled by New Age “happy talk” yet sense that there are spiritual principles that could give them more leverage in life and business. If that sounds like you, click here for more information and to contact me for an interview.
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How to Respond to Irrational Fear with Grace

We all experience irrational fear from time to time. The wonderful thing is that realizing that the fear is irrational is our ticket to freedom. As soon as we really get that we are living in the feeling of our fearful thinking in the moment, our experience will automatically move toward awareness of our default state of wellbeing. This shift in awareness may be instantaneous, or it may take some time, but it will always happen when we let it.

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Look beyond personal mind for answers to the hard questions

beyond personal mind july 2014[This piece is from an email to the folks in the Enlightened Business Intensive. It addresses the question of how to know what to do when there are a kazillion places to start, and you are running around in circles.]

There are two fundamentally different ways to use your mind. One is to use your intellect to figure things out. The other is to look toward Mind, the formless energy and intelligence behind all things, what you might call Spirit, or Source, or God. In other words, you can use your personal mind or access Universal Mind.

Our personal minds are great for adding two and two to make four.

They are good for making arrangements for a trip or putting together furniture from Ikea. (Actually, you might need to turn to Universal Mind for that one!) Our personal minds are not so helpful when it comes to choosing a mate or a career.

I think most of us recognize the value of turning toward a greater source of intelligence in certain situations, but I think we tend to underrate the practical value of turning toward this intelligence in all areas of our lives. When we are stumped about what to say on the home page of our web sites or how much to charge for our services or whether we should go to a networking meeting, we try to resolve the situation by thinking about it. We expect our personal minds to come up with the answers.

The problem is that the personal mind can only see what it already knows.

You can’t think your way out of a thought storm about writing copy for your web site or pricing your work. The more thinking you add to the situation, the more confused and uptight you become.

The remedy is to look in another direction. Instead of looking into what we know and thinking harder and longer about it, look toward the unknown.

What on earth does that mean?

It means remembering that there is a much bigger intelligence at play in life and assuming that the answers you need will arise when you get out of the way. They may arise in 30 seconds or 30 days, but it is guaranteed that they will arise if you let them.

Again, I think many of us recognize the truth of this, but we get hijacked by the belief that we need to know something now. Forgetting that we live in the feeling of our thinking and believing for a moment that our circumstances can affect our wellbeing, we get nervous about the consequences of letting go of the timing. When we remember that the only thing we are ever experiencing is thought, we aren’t so concerned about the externals.

The bottom line is that when you don’t know where to begin, the best thing to do is to relax.

If you have an inkling or an inclination toward a certain activity in your business, go for that. Don’t sweat the logic of it.

If you trust your inclinations and common sense, they will naturally guide your next step. Concentrate on the one step that comes to you in the moment instead of worrying about the fourth step after that.

If your thinking is too noisy for you to sense an inclination or hear common sense, don’t sweat it. Toss a coin to choose a starting point. Do that, and let the path itself teach you.

I’m interested in knowing how that lands. Please use the comments to let me know.

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Look to the Unknown for Solutions

As Einstein famously said, we can’t find solutions from within the same frame of reference or level of consciousness in which our problems were created. In a very real sense, if we want to find solutions, we need to stop looking.

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