Why a positive self-image can get in the way


We hear a lot about the importance of having a positive self-image and self-esteem. In reality, any self-image obscures your true nature, which is infinitely more lovely, creative, and compassionate than any persona you might generate. It’s human nature to have a self-image, but it’s helpful to realize that it’s of questionable value.

Posted in Ambition, Authenticity, Consciousness, Emotional intelligence, Success | Tagged , , , | Leave a comment

Leave with the One that Brung You – How to Have More Love

Why is it that the bloom so often fades in marriages, friendships, even our relationships with our businesses? Could it be as simple as innocently placing our attention in the wrong place?

Have you suspected or seen through the limitations of New Age magical thinking, but you still sense that there is magic at work in the world? I coach men and women in the spiritual principles behind the way the mind works in all situations so that my clients can reliably access and trust their creative intelligence and take bold action in service of their dreams. Click here to learn more and schedule a preliminary interview.

Posted in Emotional intelligence, Getting clients, Thought, Three Principles, Video, Wisdom | Leave a comment

Relax! A Better Idea Will Be Along Shortly

What can you do when you’re just plain stuck? When you understand what’s actually going on, the answer is quite simple.

The origin of Shaboom and an invitation to apply for individual coaching

The name of my company, Shaboom, is taken from a tune written and recorded by The Chords in 1954. The refrain, “Life could be a dream” captures the promise and impermanence of dreams. It calls us to be bold, visionary, and creative. It honors intuition and alternate ways of knowing. And it reminds us not to take ourselves too seriously.

It’s exactly what I want for myself and for my clients.

I have room for a couple of individual coaching clients before the end of the year. This is an opportunity to work with me at a deep level to get unstuck, hook up your genius, and take bold action to create your dreams. I’m interviewing prospective clients now. To learn more and apply, please click here.

Posted in Confidence, Creativity, Emotional intelligence, Thought, Three Principles | Tagged , , , , , | Leave a comment

Frenzied Thinking Is Temporary, When We Allow It to Be

A client recently asked me how to deal with frenzied feelings. Here’s what I wrote to her.

Thoughts are just thoughts, no matter what state of mind we are in when we think them. Sometimes we have a tendency to give more weight to thoughts accompanied by intense feelings. We may find it easier to see that mellow feelings are due to our thinking, but tend to attribute intense feelings to our circumstances. But no matter how intense our feelings, we are always reacting to our thoughts, not to our circumstances.

Frenzied thinking/feeling is going to happen. It’s part of being human. When we give it significance, it tends to increase in two ways. First, our thinking gets more an more frenzied as we think about all the reasons we have to feel frenzied. ;-) Second, our behavior when we believe our frenzied feelings tends to generate more confusion and distress.

What to do? Recognize that no matter what our circumstances, we are reacting to thought, and remember that thought is a flow. It is always flowing, moving, morphing, changing. If we don’t grab onto our thinking (argue with it, try to fix it), it will naturally subside.

I have found that my anxious (more common for me than frenzy) feelings have less and less significance for me as time goes on. As a result, they last shorter amounts of time. This creates a lovely feedback loop: the more we detach from anxious feelings, the faster we return to equanimity, the more clearly we think, the smarter we are, the better we behave, and the more likely we are to trust the process by which we naturally regain our equilibrium and peace.

The Wholeness Hangout: Karma, November 14, 2014

My guest for the November Wholeness Hangout is Eric Klein of Wisdom Heart. (www.wisdomheart.com) We’ll be exploring the concept of karma and talking about how it relates to our fundamental wholeness.

Along with being a spiritual teacher, for the past two decades, Eric has been a leading voice in the movement to bring greater spirit, meaning, and authenticity to the workplace through his company Dharma Consulting. He’s worked with over 20,000 leaders from a wide variety of settings: Fortune 500 companies, healthcare, governmental and non-profit organizations as well as mid-size companies.

I hope you will join Eric and me for what promises to be a rich exploration.

WHEN: Friday, November 14, 2014, 9:00-10:00am Pacific Standard Time (USA)
HOW: Watch online and/or phone in.

Click here for details on joining the Wholeness Hangout on Karma..

Need Mentor Coaching for your ICF credential?

A mentor coaching group for applicants for the International Coach Federation’s ACC credential begins November 26th. As a Certified Mentor Coach, a Master Certified Coach, and a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) assessor team since 2003,  I love helping other coaches refine their skills and develop their artistry. Click here for details.

Posted in Confidence, Emotional intelligence, Thought, Three Principles, Wisdom | 2 Comments

When Can You Trust Yourself?

We’ve all had experiences when we thought we were acting wisely, but it turned out that we weren’t. When can we trust ourselves and when not? And how can we know?

The origin of Shaboom and an invitation to apply for individual coaching

The name of my company, Shaboom, is taken from a tune written and recorded by The Chords in 1954. The refrain, “Life could be a dream” captures the promise and impermanence of dreams. It calls us to be bold, visionary, and creative. It honors intuition and alternate ways of knowing. And it reminds us not to take ourselves too seriously.

It’s exactly what I want for myself and for my clients.

I have room for a couple of individual coaching clients before the end of the year. This is an opportunity to work with me at a deep level to get unstuck, hook up your genius, and take bold action to create your dreams. I’m interviewing prospective clients now.
To learn more and apply, please click here.

Posted in Confidence, Emotional intelligence, Three Principles, Wisdom | Tagged , , , , , | Leave a comment