Sailing through life is easier when you stop managing your experience

Too often we try to improve our human experience by managing it. We celebrate our highs and try to maximize them. We critique our lows and try to root them out. Though we do it in all innocence, all that managing and editorializing actually interferes with our inborn ability to learn, grown, and adapt. In this video I share a story about the time I tried to sail a boat with my buns by way of illustrating the futility of managing our experience with our thinking.

Are you tired of sitting on the fence with your head in the clouds?

how to get unstuckI’m hearing from so many people these days that they are fed up and frustrated. Whether it’s the state of the world, the state of their work, the state of their dining room tables, or their very souls, they long to make a change but seem not to know where or how to start.

And you know what? I can help with that.

Next week you’ll find details of three new small group programs in your inbox.

  • The Art of Living for Everyday Activists: Accessing resilience, inspiration, and stamina to do great work one step and one day at a time.
  • Revisioning Recovery: Uncovering the inner path to freedom from addiction, compulsion, and tiresome bad habits. Think a mash-up of group coaching and book club.
  • Come Alive & Do the Thing! A mastermind for solopreneurs who waffle when they’d rather rock.

If you oscillate from inspiration to overwhelm, from indignation to resignation, and back again…

If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired of a tiresome habit or compulsion but unwilling to buy into a story of lifelong disability and impairment…

If you have been poised on the verge of action (or on the verge of the verge) and wondering how the heck to get off the fence and into action…

Then one of these groups may be for you. Watch for details next week, and if this speaks to you, please don’t dilly dally. These groups will be limited to 6-8 persons each.

Cultivating fear won’t create safety

In the wake of the election, I see many well-intentioned people fomenting fear as a strategy for making themselves and others safe. A state of chronic fear depletes us mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Fear is not sustainable, and fomenting it won’t make us safe. As we look around us, fear may arise, but let’s not fuel it. We don’t need to feed fear to be safe. We need to be awake, tell the truth, and love each other.

When is a blooming flower wrong? Never!

At the Three Principles Global Community Conference in Los Angeles at the end of October, I was struck by an insight shared by Mara Gleason and Eirik Grunde Olsen, founders of One Solution. Mara and Eirik created a successful international conference in just five months, and one of the reasons it worked out is that they didn’t get hung up on getting the form right. Instead they stayed oriented to the infinite, limitless creative capacity out of which all forms emerge.

As I listened to Eirik and Mara I thought about all the times I have been stopped because of internal or external criticism. It occurred to me that stopping oneself because of criticism is akin to stopping a flower mid-bloom because something isn’t quite right. It just doesn’t make sense. If that sounds familiar to you, may this video wake up a different response to negative feedback.

Click here to learn more about One Solution. 

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