Are you in a faux flow trance?

June 11, 2009 6:31 PM

Flow is described as “being completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you're using your skills to the utmost." (Mihaly Cziksentmihalyi)

Going with the flow is supposed to signify natural, effortless movement from one moment to the next. When it comes to managing your energy and attention in the absence of an external boss, going with the flow can be disastrous.

In fact, it's not flow at all, but faux-flow.

Aimlessness
When going with the flow means flowing any which way, it's not flow, it's aimlessness.

Flow requires us to make a decision. De-cide, from the Latin "cut off." Harsh words in our feel-good-crazy times, but essential to flow.

Flow requires deciding on a direction and turning away from competing directions. Until you make a decision, you may feel all flow-y, but you're in a faux-flow trance.

Apathy
If going with the flow means not going anywhere until the limitations are removed, it's not flow, it's apathy.

Flow requires constraint. A river gathers force from the narrowness of its banks relative to the volume of water. The same is true when you decide what to create. Limitation and constraint focus your attention, require you to make choices, and keep you moving forward.

Self Deception
If going with the flow means believing your thoughts and feelngs, it's not flow, but self deception.

Accurate feedback is essential to flow, and we can't get accurate feedback if we live in our heads.

The only way to get accurate feedback is to look to what philosopher Ken Wilber calls a community of the adequate. (I know. Not a very juicy term for the village that gives life to your creative endeavors, but he's a guy.)

Left to our own devices, we see what we expect to see, what we want to see, what we are afraid to see. It's not that we are unwilling to see the truth (well, not always), it's just that the committee of me, myself, and I produce distorted information.

Breaking the Faux Flow Trance
Breaking the faux-flow trance means:

Making a decision.

Accepting constraints as an aid to the creative process.

Actively soliciting feedback from a community that can see you in ways you can't see yourself.

When you have those three factors in place, flow will happen. Without them, it won't.

Flow's more fun!

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Hi Molly,
This post couldn't have come at a better time. With summer approaching, I've decided to work on a couple of big projects (ebook and program) for my just right client. These have been on my radar for a year now, but no action has been taken.

I really haven't been in the "flow" with either of these. I kept waiting for the "right time" to work on them. Time when I would have hours to work uninterrupted. Granted, this is important at moments for the creative process, waiting for it to happen means nothing happens.

I loved the idea that for flow to happen, you need constraint and limitation. As the old saying goes "I do my best work under pressure," that's not how I want to work any more because of some corporate experiences. I now realize that you can have constraint and limitation without staying up all night the night before!

Posted by: Jen Vondenbrink at June 16, 2009 4:03 AM

Hey Jen!

We missed you in the closing session of Goldilocks. And I appreciated that you made a choice in favor of constraints.

Sometimes the constraint is not knowing exactly where to start or what to do. Diving in can be the best way, then, to get into flow.

I can't wait to hear how your projects are going. Be sure to keep us updated in Shaboom County.

Posted by: Molly Gordon at June 18, 2009 12:22 PM