Too often we try to improve our human experience by managing it. We celebrate our highs and try to maximize them. We critique our lows and try to root them out. Though we do it in all innocence, all that managing and editorializing actually interferes with our inborn ability to learn, grown, and adapt. In this video I share a story about the time I tried to sail a boat with my buns by way of illustrating the futility of managing our experience with our thinking.
In the wake of the election, I see many well-intentioned people fomenting fear as a strategy for making themselves and others safe. A state of chronic fear depletes us mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Fear is not sustainable, and fomenting it won’t make us safe. As we look around us, fear may arise, but let’s not fuel it. We don’t need to feed fear to be safe. We need to be awake, tell the truth, and love each other.
Confusion happens when we obsess about what we can’t see and miss the fact that we can always see just enough for right now.
Contentment is connection with inherent wellbeing, resilience, and resourcefulness. Far from being a passive retreat from the problems of the world, it is the foundation for deep engagement.
Resilience is part of your nature, and the more deeply you see that, the more easily you will access that resilience.
In a recent episode of The Daily Show, Senator Cory Booker contrasted going through life as a thermometer or a thermostat. The thermometer is at the effect of circumstances; the thermostat has an inherent capacity to adjust, adapt, and respond. As human beings, we can not only do that, we can learn and evolve. Remembering that can make all the difference.
There are times in life when we’re doing just fine, even spectacularly, but for our confused thinking about how we are doing. Rather than trying to do better, we can drop our story about how we’re doing and discover the natural genius that’s already at work.