Life After Goals — Recovering Meaning After the Job Is Done

If you’ve ever experienced the blahs after achieving a major goal this one’s for you.

Do you sometimes feel like you’re peering into the mist, and the longer and harder you look, the less clear things seem to be? The truth is that you do have the answers; but sometimes it takes a listening ear and a few good questions to bring them to the surface. That’s part of what I do with my coaching clients, and if it sounds intriguing to you, click here to learn more.

Traction and the Goal Paradox

There’s a paradox around goal setting that, if you don’t understand it, can keep you from getting traction with the things that matter. Yes, you need to set goals to get traction, but you also need to hold them lightly.

Have you suspected or seen through the limitations of New Age magical thinking, but you still sense that there is magic at work in the world? I coach men and women in the spiritual principles behind the way the mind works in all situations, which gives my clients immense leverage in solving problems and both recognizing and rising to opportunities.
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What The Matrix Can Tell Us About Traction or Why “Just Do It” Doesn’t Do It

The Matrix PosterI’ve been watching The Ultimate Matrix, a mind-bending 10 DVD package of all three Matrix films plus a week’s worth of special features, including six hours of commentary by philosophers Ken Wilber and Cornell West.

Do I know how to have fun, or what?

Anyhow, one scene from the first film struck me as particularly pertinent to the problem of getting traction on the things that matter.

After receiving his martial arts training, Neo faces Morpheus for a test of skill. In the midst of the fight, they stop for a second.

Morpheus: What are you waiting for?! You’re faster than this. Don’t think you are. Know you are.

They begin fighting again; Morpheus keeps on trying to get Neo to improve.

Morpheus: Come on! Stop trying to hit me and hit me!

I think one reason we don’t get traction with the things that matter is that we wait to take action until we think we are ready, when the knowledge that we are ready can only emerge out of action.

We become preoccupied with trying to get a result, when results can only be achieved when we stop trying and act in the moment.

“Just Do It!” doesn’t do it when you’re caught up in thinking

The injunction, “Just do it!” won’t move you forward, if you’re caught up in your thinking, hyper-focused on whether or not doing it will turn out the way you want.

In fact, the more pressure you put on yourself to do it, when you’re in a pressured state of mind, the more stuck you’re going to get.

Somehow, you need to get out of your mind and into action.

That’s where a mastermind group can make all the difference.

The Traction Mastermind can get you out of your head and into action

The Traction Mastermind is a 16-week group coaching program for only six men and women who are smarter than the average bear but are stuck (or in danger of getting stuck) with something that matters deeply. They know what they want to create or accomplish, even if the steps are not mapped out yet, and they feel called to take action now.

The Traction Mastermind is designed to:

  • Give you clarity and confidence to create what you’d love to create, not just now, but any time.
  • Take focused action and produce momentum on that project you’ve been spinning your wheels on, so that the more action you take, the easier it gets.
  • Help you take ownership of your greatest gifts and use them more fully in the world.
  • Cultivate compassion with yourself and quiet your inner critic so you can enjoy showing up for your life.
  • Sustain your energy and enthusiasm about your life and the direction it is taking.

And through it all, The Traction Mastermind will help you be fully present, able to experience the joy of each moment, even as you deliberately go about creating your future. (One of my clients calls this “living in the present perfect.”)

The Traction Mastermind begins Wednesday, September 24th

This week you could start getting traction on whatever has had you spinning your wheels. A book. A new career. A community project. It could be something life altering or something that’s may not appear earth shaking but has real importance for you.

Whatever it is, if you want to stop spinning your wheels, I invite you to check out the Traction Mastermind now.

Click here for details and an application.

One of my favorite things in the world is seeing folks get traction on what matters to them. If it’s the right time, I would love to help you do that.

How do you get off the dang dime?

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We’ve all been there, perched on the brink of something new. Full of ideas and inspiration. Eager to make something happen. And yet…

Life has a way of getting in the way sometimes. Or not life exactly, but how we hold things in our lives. How we imagine them, relate to them, organize them, think about them.

There’s a way in which we can go around in circles in our minds, working quite hard, but not making any actual progress.

It can be crazy making. And the more time we spend spinning our wheels in this way, the worse things get.

We have trouble making simple decisions. We get caught up in perfectionism or second guessing or self-doubt.

And so the question arises, how do you get off the dang dime?

What you do at this point matters

One option is to push through, no holds barred. Batten down the hatches. Man the torpedoes. Don’t look up until you’ve done the thing.

And that can work. But the cost can be very high. You can end up burning bridges as well as the midnight oil, wearing out relationships as well as your adrenals.

A better way is to tap into wisdom

A much better way to get off the dime, to get traction on something important, is to tap into wisdom. Your own wisdom and that of the collective.

Because wisdom is there, you know. It’s ever present and endlessly available.

What varies is your ability to access it at a given point in time.

You can get better at tapping into wisdom

The more you understand about how your moment-to-moment thinking creates your experience of reality, the better you get at discerning wisdom from all the voices competing for air time in your head.

The better you get at discerning that difference, the more confidence you will have in the guidance you receive.

And the more you trust your guidance, the easier it is to get off the dime.

Wisdom is the key to getting traction on the things that matter

Wisdom, not struggle, is the key to getting traction. It’s not just about working smarter, it’s about working wiser.

Wisdom is a key theme of the Traction Mastermind group that begins next Wednesday, September 24, 2014. The group includes facilitated mastermind calls, individual coaching, and customized structures for acountability.

The Traction Mastermind is for men and women who are smarter than the average bear but feel stuck anyway. They sense there is something in spiritual principles that might help them get unstuck, but they distrust New Age “happy talk.” They know what they want to create or accomplish, even if the steps are not mapped out yet, and they feel called to take action now.

If that sounds like you, take a look now and see if it resonates. If so, send me your application, and we’ll have a conversation to see it it’s a fit.

Click here for details: shaboominc.com/traction-mastermind

Also, I would deeply appreciate your help spreading the word. If someone comes to mind immediately as a possible fit, would you tell them now about the program?

Thank you!

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PS: In some respects, the best candidate for a mastermind group is someone who doesn’t need one. What I mean by that is that it’s not about needing help so much as it is about being ready to engage with a group of peers who are committed to each other’s vision. It’s about relaxing more into your strengths even as you are step up to play a bigger game.

 

Do you hear a next level calling?

[This is a guest post by my friend Jeffrey Van Dyk to introduce his new work helping people respond to what he calls their next level callings. Molly]

Right now, all around the world, there are people waking up…

With the realization that they have been CALLED to do something great.

It’s as if something gets unlocked inside of them—sometimes over time, sometimes seemingly overnight—and they realize that there is a much larger, more significant impact they are meant to make in this world.

Your Next Level Calling is when the Universe knocks on your door and says “Now Is The Time!” … And you know that everything you’ve done until now was simply training for the great work you are here to bring to this planet on a massive scale.

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You feel the yearning to expand, to deepen, to have a richer more meaningful life, and to have your business reflect that.

I’m Jeffrey Van Dyk, CEO of Big Vision Business, and over the last few years I’ve gone through some very big shifts in the process of answering my larger calling, and let me tell you, it’s been a wild roller coaster of experiences and emotions.

Molly and I were speaking recently about the shifts in her life and business as well, and she invited me to share my experience and what I’ve learned with you … both on the personal side (gory details included) and in terms of business growth and success—and that’s what this post is all about.

I also just released a new video training designed to help you clarify what you’re really meant to be up to in the world that’s true to your soul—and is bigger, more lucrative and contributes to the world in a far greater way.

 The wild thing about getting a bigger calling …

… is that on some level, there is no explaining it! There’s no justification for why it’s you—at least no reason that will really satisfy your ego.

But for better or worse, there’s also no denying it—because you know that you won’t be able to rest until you step up to answer it.

There’s just this deep, underlying soul knowing that you are “The One”…in your field, in your industry, in your part of the world, called to do something truly great, that your tribe and this world is hungry waiting for.

And let me tell you, it can be crazy making! You at first feel like you’re crazy, wondering if you’re making it all up. You feel like you can’t possibly be “The One”—I mean why you? You wonder if you can really do the thing you feel called to do—which is challenging to think about, because usually the details of a bigger calling are fuzzy at first!

And so you stagnate and ignore it, the call only grows bigger and stronger, pulling at your heart … even if your mind continues to resist or push it away.

For me, it happened like this …

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I’ve been in the business and personal development field for many years doing

very purposeful work … but all along I always knew there was a bigger reach I was meant to have. I would have visions of myself on much bigger stages (real and metaphorically), reaching people all around the world. Bottom line is that I’ve always known I have a big message to share, but on some level I was still hiding out – even while living a purposeful life and doing purposeful work.

In the past 18 months I started working with my friend and colleague Max Simon and about 6 months ago took over as CEO for this 60,000 person global community.

I know deep within my bones that what we’re doing at Big Vision Business is BIG. Bigger than anything I’ve created …or BVB has created before.

I also know that this is the beginning of my great contribution—the bigger work I am in this world to do. I know that it’s the beginning of a global movement, and I know that everything I’ve done before this has been preparation for what we’re doing now.

And you know what’s funny?

All my life I knew that this day would come. All my life I knew that there was something significant and world changing for me to do. And now that it’s here …

It’s like my greatest dream and my worst nightmare have collided.

I mean, there’s a part of me that has always known this was my path, and it’s saying, “YES, finally … it’s time!”

This part of me is thrilled that I’m that I’m getting on with the bigger work I’m designed to do – which sounds odd, given that I’ve worked with thousands and thousands of people and generated millions of dollars doing my purposeful work already.

But this time is different, and I know it.

Then there is the part of me that has been subtly (and not so subtly) avoiding answering my next level calling … even though I’ve been staidly moving towards it, bit by bit, for years.

This is the part of me that likes to be private and doesn’t really want to share my feelings or truly be seen (publicly), thank you very much.

And within that part of me are all my own doubts and fears. My fear that people won’t like what I have to share, my concern that I won’t know how to bring this next thing out in a way that works in business, my doubt that I’ll have what it takes, my feeling that it’s too big for me, and the vulnerable, tender parts of me that just don’t want to be abandoned.

Yes, after all the years of being in this business, these things still come up!

I’m sharing this with you so that you know you aren’t alone in this journey, and to give you some tools to deal with it as you answer your own Next Level Calling.

Your old “stuff” will always come to the surface when you’re truly expanding, evolving in your work, and expanding your ability to answer you call on larger and larger scales. And it’s meant to – because inside of that “stuff” is the power, the gold and genius required to step up and lead your great work.

There are some very powerful lessons I’ve uncovered over the last year during my journey,

Here are the 7 Requirements to Answer Your Next Level Calling

1. Change your relationship to your resistance

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Stop fighting your resistance, and instead look at what your resistance is trying to tell you! I mean, honestly, aren’t you sick of going to battle with yourself?

Yes, on one hand you could say that your resistance is holding you back … but have you considered that it might be there for a good reason?

Your resistance has intelligence to it, so stop fighting it and start listening to it. It might be telling you what you need to learn, what you need to let go of, or what you need to have in place in order to step out and answer your next level calling safely.

Use your resistance as a feedback mechanism—not something to fight against.

2. Develop a deeper connection to your spiritual guidance

You might already have a connection to your spiritual guidance that you use in your life. But when you answer a bigger calling, getting off track in even small ways can have big consequences.

So rather than just using your spiritual guidance to understand what your calling is, use it to navigate your business and life as you answer your call.

This one practice will cut literally years off from your path and make answering your call one of the richest, most rewarding experiences of your life.

3. Open your heart even wider

You cannot “hide out” AND answer your bigger call.

On some level, when it’s time to really step out, it’s also a call to open your heart in a much more substantial way. It’s a call to really embrace the beauty and gift that you are, and to let that be seen and broadcast in the world.

You are not just bringing a “body of work” to the world—you are stepping out as the living example and embodiment of the work you are here to bring forward. It’s your example that will give people the permission to step forward themselves, and it’s your radiant heart that will draw people to you and compel them to join you.

4. Shift from WHAT you do to WHY you do it

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Practitioners are focused on WHAT they do, and try to sell that (usually without great success). They sell coaching, energy work, book keeping or some other service, and their focus is on telling people about the service they offer.

Global Visionaries, on the other hand, are focused on WHY they do what they do. They are clear about the big impact they are called to have on this world and on their tribe as they answer their calling, and they focus on spreading that message! They inspire people with new possibilities, and what they are doing to help create this new reality in people’s lives and in the world at large.

And here’s the real key: because they are clear about the big WHY, their HOW is inspired and their strategy becomes focus and supercharged.

5. Expand your Vision

Your next level calling isn’t just another business—it’s your life’s work.

And yes, it’s probably much, much bigger than you allow yourself to dream about, let alone put down on paper as a vision.

So starting today, I invite you to allow the whole expanse of your vision into your field of awareness, and to start sharing it! Because when you do, full the energy of your vision is unleashed to guide and fuel what you do. And THAT’S when your creativity starts to flow and you create something truly unique that the world is craving, and ready to buy.

6. Create a masterful, guided strategy

Masterful strategy takes great smarts and creativity …  but it also takes listening.

To develop a masterful strategy, you must know what’s missing in the market, figure out what would inspire you to meet that need, and do so in a way that supports your larger calling.

Many people go sideways and get off course in this step because they tune into their guidance for what it is they are called to do, but don’t stay tuned in for how they are meant to do it! So as you develop your strategy and develop the next phase of your business, continue to step back from it, reconnect to your guidance system and listen to ensure that what you create and how you manifest it is on target, true to your calling and will be deeply impactful to the people you serve.

7. Surround yourself with your tribe

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You aren’t meant to answer your big calling along. And more to the point, you can’t … none of us can.

To answer your calling on a global scale, you need people around you with open hearts and expanded minds, who are engaged in something much larger than themselves. These are the people that will challenge you with love, support you when you’ve lost your way, and stand by your side cheering as you step out to your next level calling.

But most of all, you need to be surrounded by people who know the journey, who know what it’s like to feel different and feel compelled to bring something out that has never been brought out before. People need people who can help you find your own unique road map.

What’s next?

If you know you have a bigger calling, but aren’t sure how to get started or move ahead in the boldest way possible, there is a wealth of resources available for you in the free Next Level Calling educational video series. Check it out today!

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