This video is a bit longer than usual. It’s all about the freedom we have to make up whatever game we choose to play in life from what matters to what we create to how we keep score. We can’t control the outcomes, but we have infinite choice over the inputs. When we shift our focus from outcomes to inputs, we see that rocking the game of life is more like making art than it is about winning races. Along the way I touch on choosing to work on a gift basis and marrying The Charming Prince. I enjoyed sharing this ride with you, and I hope it leaves you with a good feeling for how much freedom, possibility, and joy are available to you. ♥
- What are my gifts?
- How do I value them and how does society value them?
- Can we all be rich?
- Is it possible for all our needs be taken care of?
On Thursday, June 1, Nicole will be joining me for a special Wholeness Hangout, a free Zoom videoconference, to explore these and other questions. I hope you can join us. Click here for details and please spread the word.
If you’d like to see how I’m approaching pricing now, I describe it briefly on my coaching page.
Timothy Gallwey, author of The Inner Game of Tennis, has said that life is a perfectly designed workshop. The part I didn’t realize when I heard that, and which I see know, is that each of us is also perfectly designed for our lives. There is no test we need to pass. Nothing to prove.
I’m still experiencing a bit of brain fog post-surgery*, so I made this a very short video. I invite you to watch it to catch the feeling, and then to play with what shows up for you. Do let me know what you see!
*On April 11th I had surgery to complete breast reconstruction following my mastectomy in 2015. If you are curious about it, you are welcome to visit my CaringBridge journal. Everything’s going swimmingly. 🙂
The end of one year and beginning of another is often a time of reflection and goal setting. We look back at the year and assess ourselves and our accomplishments, and we look ahead and consider what we want to create or achieve. We may consider what qualities we want to cultivate, what values we want to express, and what we would like to have to show at the end of the year for our efforts.
This reflection and intention setting can be immensely valuable, yet it can also be a trap. We can fall under the spell of self-importance.
This spell may cast a shadow, and in that shadow it will seem that you are not now and never will be enough.
Or it may create a glow so bright that you are impelled to dream up ever bigger, brighter goals without noticing that you are losing touch with your heart.
Whether the spell tricks you into playing small or playing huge, it distracts you from an inner spark, which wants only one thing: that you say yes to life.
Saying yes will sometimes lead to small things and sometimes to large. Wherever it leads, the value of what you are up to in the year ahead will not be determined by the size or scope or apparent importance of your activities. It will be determined by the quality of your YES.
In the weeks and months ahead, I wish you time and space to discover and nurture that spark. To experiment with saying YES in matters large and small.
Because your YES matters, and you are the only one who can utter it.
Is your work is calling…
…but somehow the call isn’t turning into action?
Sometimes you feel the call to show up for your work or business this year, but you aren’t quite sure how to do it. Whether it’s not being clear about what to do or not quite having the confidence to put your choices into action, you need a little help.
The Come Alive and Do the Thing! Mastermind group is designed to help you pick up the phone already.
It’s about answering the call in big and little ways, day in and day out.
It’s about finding your way–the way that really works for who you are and how you want to be–without hype, adrenaline, or pressure.
Come Alive & Do the Thing! will help you tap into your own wisdom and common sense to do what needs to be done. It’s about saying YES to your life and work.
We start January 18. Won’t you join us? Click here to learn more about Come Alive & Do the Thing!
I’m hearing from so many people these days that they are fed up and frustrated. Whether it’s the state of the world, the state of their work, the state of their dining room tables, or their very souls, they long to make a change but seem not to know where or how to start.
And you know what? I can help with that.
Next week you’ll find details of three new small group programs in your inbox.
- The Art of Living for Everyday Activists: Accessing resilience, inspiration, and stamina to do great work one step and one day at a time.
- Revisioning Recovery: Uncovering the inner path to freedom from addiction, compulsion, and tiresome bad habits. Think a mash-up of group coaching and book club.
- Come Alive & Do the Thing! A mastermind for solopreneurs who waffle when they’d rather rock.
If you oscillate from inspiration to overwhelm, from indignation to resignation, and back again…
If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired of a tiresome habit or compulsion but unwilling to buy into a story of lifelong disability and impairment…
If you have been poised on the verge of action (or on the verge of the verge) and wondering how the heck to get off the fence and into action…
Then one of these groups may be for you. Watch for details next week, and if this speaks to you, please don’t dilly dally. These groups will be limited to 6-8 persons each.
Julian of Norwich is fabled for saying, “All is well, and all manner of things be well.”
I’m sure she’d be delighted to know that I agree. On some cosmic level everything is magnificent, amazing, and just peachy keen.
And yet the heart aches–and should–when children go hungry. The soul lurches and heaves and cries, “No! No! No!” when another person of color is killed in the name of law enforcement.
There is no shortage of injustice, damage, and suffering in this world of form.
Somehow we need to hold both: awareness of the perfect whole and a here-and-now response-ability to the problems around us.
Looking for leverage
I’ve sat with that paradox for many years. As my own sense of wellbeing has expanded and deepened, I’ve wondered about my responsibility (response-ability) for the wellbeing of my fellow beings.
I’ve been listening. Looking. Wondering. And I’ve been wondering about what this means for my work as well.
In a way, I think I’ve been looking for leverage, for the place where the kind of critter I am can make the greatest contribution.
And it’s looking to me like I can contribute by coaching men and women who are working on large scale world problems ranging from climate change to hunger to terrorism, helping them to tap into the creativity, resilience, courage, and wisdom they need to continue to innovate and to keep up the good work without burnout.
In the words of Mahatma Gandhi, I’m committed to helping us all be the change we want to see.
Being the change we want to see calls for a “new type of thinking”
You’ve doubtless seen variations on a statement attributed to Albert Einstein that we cannot solve a problem from the same level of consciousness that gave rise to it.
What he actually said was this:
“Our world faces a crisis as yet unperceived by those possessing power to make great decisions for good or evil. The unleashed power of the atom has changed everything save our modes of thinking and we thus drift toward unparalleled catastrophe. We scientists who released this immense power have an overwhelming responsibility in this world life-and-death struggle to harness the atom for the benefit of mankind and not for humanity’s destruction. We need two hundred thousand dollars at once for a nation-wide campaign to let people know that a new type of thinking is essential if mankind is to survive and move toward higher levels. ” (Source: New York Times – May 25 1946, p.13 – “Atomic Education Urged by Einstein”)
I believe that new type of thinking is already available, that it’s built in to the human operating system, and that learning to notice and access it is part of the creative evolutionary process.
I’m headed to Oslo to advance that process
From May 27-29 I’ll be at the One Solution Conference in Oslo Norway, at which speakers will boldly assert a single solution to the world’s challenges.
Our assertion is that the problems of humanity–-war, poverty, cultural and political conflict, terrorism, the environment, corruption, drug trafficking, gender inequality, to name just a few–derive from a single source.
What’s more, that single source can be successfully addressed with a single solution, a simple understanding of the mind.
You can get a taste of the conference at the free Wholeness Hangout on Friday
My guests for the May Wholeness Hangout, Friday, May 6, are Eirik Grunde-Olsen and Linda Pransky, two of the organizers of the One Solution Conference.
We will look at how what happens on a personal level also happens on a global level and what that implies for solving world problems. We will make the case for how insight into how the human experience is created moment to moment is the solution for producing true sustainable change.
I hope you will bring your questions and vision to the conversation.
Call and response
I don’t believe that the world needs saving so much as I sense that each of us is called to participate in the creative evolutionary process in a unique way. And this new type of thinking helps us notice how we are called and then respond in the ways that make sense for the kinds of critters we are.
I have a friend who is organizing a community based electrical power supply system. Who knew that such a thing was possible, let alone feasible? But she is doing it.
Another friend has founded a museum to foster and feature the work of regional artists.
A third friend is deeply involved in the presidential primaries, moving heaven and earth to get out the vote.
These friends are making bold, visible moves, but that’s not the only way we contribute to the unfolding process.
The most important conversation in the world
My friend Bill Cumming, founder of The Boothby Institute (another bold, visible move), is fond of saying that we can never know when the most important conversation in the world is taking place.
We may never know how the effects of a kind word, a helping hand, or even a harshly uttered course correction ripple through space and time. Small changes in initial conditions can have massive consequences.
In other words, if it moves you, do something about it. Don’t worry about how big or small it is.
I hope you can join us for Friday’s Hangout (details below). If you can’t, then I invite you to watch the replay, which will be on the same page by the following day.
Meanwhile, have a wonderful, wonder-filled week, and please let me know what’s in your heart by sharing it in the comments.