This video is a bit longer than usual. It’s all about the freedom we have to make up whatever game we choose to play in life from what matters to what we create to how we keep score. We can’t control the outcomes, but we have infinite choice over the inputs. When we shift our focus from outcomes to inputs, we see that rocking the game of life is more like making art than it is about winning races. Along the way I touch on choosing to work on a gift basis and marrying The Charming Prince. I enjoyed sharing this ride with you, and I hope it leaves you with a good feeling for how much freedom, possibility, and joy are available to you. ♥
In January, 2016, I wrote:
Miracles begin when you do.
So often we look for the right place to begin. And like trying to figure out how to get out of bed or how to write, looking for the place to begin is precisely what keeps you from doing so.
The beginning is here and now with you…. If you want miracles, start by noticing that you are one.
Perhaps you recognize truth in that, but right now you need to pay the rent, find love, or get clients.
It’s a lovely idea, but you’ve got problems to solve before you can lounge around grooving on yourself as a miracle.
I get it.
Some days stepping into miracle seems like denial, delusion, or avoidance
Problems can look so compelling that, while we would dearly love a miracle, we’re pretty sure that looking for one would be a phenomenal waste of time and a diversion of energy from doing what has to be done.
But ah! I’m not talking about looking for a miracle
There’s a gigantic, spectacular difference between looking for a miracle in a “Please, Universe, get over here and save my freaking butt” way and stepping into the miracle that underlies everything, including us.
Stepping into miracle is not passive. It’s not the desperate act of a delusional victim seeking rescue from a cosmic magician. It’s a turning toward the creative source of all innovation, beauty, and love and taking step after modest step in response to the inklings, insights, and ideas that arise in each moment.
Stepping into miracle is eminently practical
Artists do it all the time. So, in their way, do the best scientists, physicians, athletes, and parents. They feel their way, drawing from an energy and intelligence that can’t be adequately captured in words.
We’re actually already there
In reality, there is not stepping into or out of miracle, there is only realization of what is already here. But stepping into miracle can be a useful metaphor, because it reminds us to act. To engage. To step into life.
Insight reveals miracle
The deep miracle that permeates life is invisible to the intellect, but insight makes it palpable. If you’d like to see and feel and dance with miracle in your life, join me for The Art of Living, Rediscovering Magic and Meaning in Life and Work. We will be exploring the Principles behind miracle so that you can see it at work and lean into it. The Art of Living begins Wednesday, July 5th, and I would love to have you in the group. Click here to learn more.
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Molly’s guidance broke me through some long-standing blocks that had been frustrating me in life and business. Now I feel that I have a new set of references, and I’m on a whole new ball game. She is a wonderful, generous teacher and guide. Twelve weeks was a perfect span to make essential changes. Deborah Clare Proctor, New Ways of Being Me
I am writing my first book (never having got past an outline before). If you are at a crossroads or have some part-buried creative aspiration that you’ve always found reasons to suppress, then this course can open things up in ways you can’t predict. Juliet Fay, Writer, coach and social entrepreneur
The Art of Living starts July 5th
Each of us has an inner guidance system, a sort of GPS. Most of us know this on some level, yet we second guess ourselves. What if we misinterpret the information our GPS is giving us? What if we make the wrong turn? It turns out that those questions really don’t matter. Your inner GPS is capable of recalibrating and recalculating no matter what move you make. You can rely on that and worry less about getting it “right.”
State of mind is the key to accessing contentment, resilience, creativity–all the things we seek by manipulating our circumstances. It looks like we will feel less frantic when we manage our time better, but the reality is that we manage our time better when we are less frantic. It looks like we will feel more peaceful and contented when we master our clutter, but the reality is that when we are peaceful and contented, we deal with clutter organically in whatever way suits the moment.
What, then, is the key to being in the state of mind from which peace and contentment naturally arise? As you may have discovered, trying to change your state of mind by effort or analysis doesn’t work. It may seem to work occasionally, but that’s an accidental coincidence of a natural shift in state of mind with the strategy du jour. There is a correlation, but no causation.
What causes state of mind to shift is insight. Some might call it grace. And while insight and grace can’t be achieved through effort, there is a way to court them: cultivate wonder.
Wonder has many flavors ranging from wide-eyed curiosity to honest doubt. What they all have in common is an open mind and the willingness to see something new. The degree to which your mind is open and the amount of willingness you have may be vast or tiny; it makes no difference. As long as you wonder honestly and with some degree of open-mindedness and willingness to see something new, you are hanging out where insight happens.
Neither this nor anything else I say is something to take on faith. It’s something to wonder about, to resonate against your own experience. I would love to know both what makes sense to you and what simply doesn’t match your experience. Please use the comments to share your perspective or feel free to email me.
We’ve often been told to look within for answers, but sometimes the way we look obscures what we are looking for. When we clutter our minds with expectations, pressure, worry, and preconceptions about the answers we think we need, we lose contact with the wisdom that will always deliver exactly what we truly need. The key is to settle down enough to perceive and follow the guidance that is there.
There’s a huge difference between being activated/reactive and being awake and effective. You don’t need to fan the flames of righteous indignation or fear in order to stay awake. Becoming over reactive, winging yourself up, may create a temporary feeling of power, but it reduces your effectiveness. This is as true in civil discourse and political action as it is across the breakfast table.
You can use your awareness of the difference between being activated and being grounded to help you stay the course over the long term rather than riling yourself up, spinning out, and burning out.