The incredible, innocent goofiness of waiting for the other shoe to drop

When my clients begin to see the principles behind how their experience is created moment to moment, they start experiencing more wellbeing. Sometimes they are startled by the degree to which their state of mind improves, and they worry about holding onto it. As one client said this morning, “I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop.”

Here’s the deal.

There’s no shoe.

There’s only the experience you are having right now in this moment.

Sure, you could have any number of experiences in the future, and you may have experiences you (think) you don’t like. But so what? Does it really make sense to give more weight and significance to a possible unpleasant feeling in the future than you give to your good feeling right now?

It’s a bit like backing away from a gorgeous table of gourmet delicacies because you can’t be sure what’s on the menu tomorrow.

I say it a bit differently in the video, and I’d love to hear how it lands with you. Please share in the comments. ♥

One universal problem; one universal hope

The Three Principles account for two things that every human being has in common with every other human being:

  • The infinite potential for new thought in every moment.
  • The only thing any of us is ever up against is our own thinking.

As we see this more deeply, we naturally experience more patience, compassion, and understanding for ourselves and others.

Don’t take my word for it. Notice where new thought has arisen in your experience in apparently unlikely circumstances. What if that potential for new thought is something you could depend on? How would that change the way you approached your most difficult problems?

 

It’s not life that’s going so fast, it’s your thinking

It’s easy to think that life speeds up and slows down–that sometimes it’s just nuts “out there” and sometimes it’s not. But life doesn’t go fast or slow; life simply unfolds moment to moment. What speeds up and slows down is our thinking. There’s nothing to fix here, just something to see, and when you see it, you tend not to find your speeded up thinking so compelling.

How the 3 Principles help: It’s probably not what you think

It’s common for those new to the Three Principles to get caught up in how precisely the Principles help. The implicit assumption is that “help” means “deliver a different experience.” But as we come to understand how Mind, Consciousness, and Thought produce our moment to moment experience of life, we are freed from preoccupation with the content of that experience. In this video I illustrate this with a story about breaking my wrist and invite you to consider where in your own life you see that your experience is coming from your thinking, not your circumstances.

I invite you to comment here. I’d love to know where you see this and where it looks to you like there are exceptions.

Would you like take a deeper look at these principles? Check out The Art of Living: Creating Magic and Meaning in Life and Work. Starts July 5.

Trying to change your state of mind is like remodeling the basement and expecting a penthouse

Trying to change your state of mind is like remodeling the basement and expecting a penthouse

When we are in a low state of mind, it’s tempting to try to change things. But if we try to work on the “self” that we perceive when we are low, we are essentially remodeling the basement in hopes of getting a penthouse. What we are experiencing is always and only a projection of thought, and if we leave it alone, thought will invariably change all by itself. But please, don’t take my word for it. Play with this. Wonder about it. And let me know what shows up for you. ♥

Wonder: the key that unlocks state of mind

State of mind is the key to accessing contentment, resilience, creativity–all the things we seek by manipulating our circumstances. It looks like we will feel less frantic when we manage our time better, but the reality is that we manage our time better when we are less frantic. It looks like we will feel more peaceful and contented when we master our clutter, but the reality is that when we are peaceful and contented, we deal with clutter organically in whatever way suits the moment.

What, then, is the key to being in the state of mind from which peace and contentment naturally arise? As you may have discovered, trying to change your state of mind by effort or analysis doesn’t work. It may seem to work occasionally, but that’s an accidental coincidence of a natural shift in state of mind with the strategy du jour. There is a correlation, but no causation.

What causes state of mind to shift is insight. Some might call it grace. And while insight and grace can’t be achieved through effort, there is a way to court them: cultivate wonder.

Wonder has many flavors ranging from wide-eyed curiosity to honest doubt. What they all have in common is an open mind and the willingness to see something new. The degree to which your mind is open and the amount of willingness you have may be vast or tiny; it makes no difference. As long as you wonder honestly and with some degree of open-mindedness and willingness to see something new, you are hanging out where insight happens.

Neither this nor anything else I say is something to take on faith. It’s something to wonder about, to resonate against your own experience. I would love to know both what makes sense to you and what simply doesn’t match your experience. Please use the comments to share your perspective or feel free to email me.

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