What if worry were optional?

What if worry were optional?

What if the remedy for worrying isn’t to reduce the number of things we have to worry about but to see that everything we worry about is ephemeral*? As we come to really see this, we see that even worry is nothing to worry about. ♥

None of this is intended to disparage or trivialize your worries. They feel real until they don’t. And I invite you, when you can, to keep playing with the possibility that when we worry, we are responding to our own thoughts and not to the circumstances we think are a problem. It’s not something to take on faith or get intellectually; it’s an insight that arises from observation and wonder.

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*A friend suggested it might be helpful to share the definition of ephemeral, so here goes. This is from Uncle Google.

e·phem·er·al
adjective
adjective: ephemeral
  1. 1.
    lasting for a very short time.
    “fashions are ephemeral”
    antonyms: permanent
    • (chiefly of plants) having a very short life cycle.
noun
noun: ephemeral; plural noun: ephemerals
  1. 1.
    an ephemeral plant.

 

The Secret to Finding Your Own Answers

We’ve often been told to look within for answers, but sometimes the way we look obscures what we are looking for. When we clutter our minds with expectations, pressure, worry, and preconceptions about the answers we think we need, we lose contact with the wisdom that will always deliver exactly what we truly need. The key is to settle down enough to perceive and follow the guidance that is there.

Your wellbeing is not controlled by your circumstances

Your wellbeing is not controlled by your circumstances. Moment by moment, we live in the feeling of our thinking, not our circumstances. Our resilience, wellbeing, and creativity are innate, not circumstantial. It doesn’t always feel this way; we all get caught up in the illusion of our thinking from time to time. But the more you cultivate your awareness of your fundamental, innate okayness, the more you will come to see through the ups and downs of your thought-generated experience. Nelson Mandela comes to mind as exemplifying how a human being can access wisdom, resilience, and wellbeing even in the midst of horrific circumstances. He was not an exception. You have the same capacity.

Why is insight so elusive even when we know what we need?

Why is it that the very insights we are so clear about needing are the ones that prove so elusive? Could it be that when we pre-specify an insight we’ve actually stopped looking for new thought?

A true insight is a fresh way of seeing. When we assume in advance that we know what we need, how it will feel when we get it, and how it will change our lives, we’re not really looking for insight at all. Insight comes when we open our minds and hearts and wills to what the Universe is actually serving up in the moment.

Intensity and Legitimacy Are Not the Same: How Not to Be Hornswoggled by Strong Feelings

Tantrums are fierce but temporary in childrenIn the course of our lives we experience all manner of ups and downs. Sometimes strong feelings result, and we have a natural tendency to be compelled by them. The more intense the feeling, the more compelling it seems.

But there is no necessary correlation between the intensity of a feeling and the truth of your thinking. None. Zero. Nada. A person can be 100% mistaken and feel utterly righteous about their point of view at the same time.

And here’s the deal. When we’re in the grip of intense feelings, our ability to see the truth by reflecting on what’s going on is impaired. We’re not likely to find the truth by thinking longer or harder about things, at least not until we’ve settled way down.

Understanding this can save huge amounts of wear and tear on your relationships, including your relationship with your business or career. The thing to do when you’re extremely worked up is to wait. Let your mind get quiet. No matter what the situation, the wisdom and insight you need to make a good decision will come from being settled down, not from letting strong feelings sway you.

There’s no need to deny or argue with how you feel. You don’t actually need to have an opinion about it. Just know enough to defer action until your thoughts are quieter.

It really is that simple.

Have a wonderful, wonder-filled week, and please let me know what’s in your heart by sharing it in the comments.

Love,

mollysig125

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