Human beings are inherently resilient. We wobble, sometimes we wobble a lot. But there is something at our foundation that steadies us even in the midst of great upheaval. Wobbling doesn’t always feel good, but it doesn’t mean that we aren’t okay.
Too often we try to improve our human experience by managing it. We celebrate our highs and try to maximize them. We critique our lows and try to root them out. Though we do it in all innocence, all that managing and editorializing actually interferes with our inborn ability to learn, grown, and adapt. In this video I share a story about the time I tried to sail a boat with my buns by way of illustrating the futility of managing our experience with our thinking.
Why is it that the very insights we are so clear about needing are the ones that prove so elusive? Could it be that when we pre-specify an insight we’ve actually stopped looking for new thought?
A true insight is a fresh way of seeing. When we assume in advance that we know what we need, how it will feel when we get it, and how it will change our lives, we’re not really looking for insight at all. Insight comes when we open our minds and hearts and wills to what the Universe is actually serving up in the moment.
There are times in life when we’re doing just fine, even spectacularly, but for our confused thinking about how we are doing. Rather than trying to do better, we can drop our story about how we’re doing and discover the natural genius that’s already at work.
When we try to impose high-mindedness on our decisions, we may inadvertently find ourselves invested in being right and in getting “good” results. When we make decisions instead from a quiet place, we tend to be less invested in being right. We decide with humility and with open minds and hearts, which leaves us free to learn and evolve as the consequences of our decisions play out.
Syd Banks talks about trusting a feeling. But there is a huge difference between noticing and navigating from that lovely feeling and being attached to the feeling itself.