Things happen for a reason. Really?

“Things happen for a reason.”

You’ve heard it. I’ve heard it. Maybe you’ve said it; I certainly have. And today I realized that it’s not all that helpful.

Maybe things happen for a reason; maybe they don’t. As my mentor George Pransky likes to say, “That’s beyond my pay grade.” In other words, I don’t actually know.

What I know down to my toenails is that things happen. And really, it’s more useful to keep our attention on that simple fact so we can resources we can encounter, experience, and respond to what happens, as it happens, with our whole selves. It doesn’t make a lot of sense to divert attention we can use for that to figuring out the cosmic reason or lack of reason for what’s going on.

Sure, in quiet moments, it can be interesting, even rewarding, to muse about why things happen. But on a go forward basis, it probably makes more sense to simply notice that things certainly do happen and that human beings are designed beautifully to respond.

What comes up for you? Tell me about it! Please comment. ♥

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The separate reality of socks

We all live in separate realities generated by our inside-out experience of life. Underneath those separate realities is a deeper reality: our shared humanity.

One example, which will seem trivial to some and significant to others (yet another indication of separate realities!) is how The Charming Prince thinks about putting socks in the laundry basket. To him, this is a two step process. To me, that verges on the ridiculous. Once upon a time, the gap between our realities could have been the basis for war, but now it simply cracks me up. What happened?

In this video I point to a deeper truth that enables us to appreciate separate realities and find common ground.

What I got wrong about the Three Principles

When I first came across the Three Principles as articulated by theosopher Sydney Banks, I thought I had found the escape hatch for everything stressful and painful in life. I was both right and wrong. This video is a first shot at pointing at what I misunderstood and an invitation to you to ask questions.

At first I thought understanding the Three Principles would inoculate me against the human experience. Upon deeper examination, I’ve come to see that understanding the Three Principles frees me to take the whole being-a-human ride as it comes, exulting in the highs and meeting the lows with grace. The more deeply we see into the inside out nature of experience, the less there is to fear in any experience, happy or sad, bold or afraid.

Do please share your thoughts and questions each week. You can use the comments here on the blog or drop me an email at molly@shaboominc.com. ♥

The incredible, innocent goofiness of waiting for the other shoe to drop

When my clients begin to see the principles behind how their experience is created moment to moment, they start experiencing more wellbeing. Sometimes they are startled by the degree to which their state of mind improves, and they worry about holding onto it. As one client said this morning, “I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop.”

Here’s the deal.

There’s no shoe.

There’s only the experience you are having right now in this moment.

Sure, you could have any number of experiences in the future, and you may have experiences you (think) you don’t like. But so what? Does it really make sense to give more weight and significance to a possible unpleasant feeling in the future than you give to your good feeling right now?

It’s a bit like backing away from a gorgeous table of gourmet delicacies because you can’t be sure what’s on the menu tomorrow.

I say it a bit differently in the video, and I’d love to hear how it lands with you. Please share in the comments. ♥

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