What I got wrong about the Three Principles

When I first came across the Three Principles as articulated by theosopher Sydney Banks, I thought I had found the escape hatch for everything stressful and painful in life. I was both right and wrong. This video is a first shot at pointing at what I misunderstood and an invitation to you to ask questions.

At first I thought understanding the Three Principles would inoculate me against the human experience. Upon deeper examination, I’ve come to see that understanding the Three Principles frees me to take the whole being-a-human ride as it comes, exulting in the highs and meeting the lows with grace. The more deeply we see into the inside out nature of experience, the less there is to fear in any experience, happy or sad, bold or afraid.

Do please share your thoughts and questions each week. You can use the comments here on the blog or drop me an email at molly@shaboominc.com. ♥

The incredible, innocent goofiness of waiting for the other shoe to drop

When my clients begin to see the principles behind how their experience is created moment to moment, they start experiencing more wellbeing. Sometimes they are startled by the degree to which their state of mind improves, and they worry about holding onto it. As one client said this morning, “I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop.”

Here’s the deal.

There’s no shoe.

There’s only the experience you are having right now in this moment.

Sure, you could have any number of experiences in the future, and you may have experiences you (think) you don’t like. But so what? Does it really make sense to give more weight and significance to a possible unpleasant feeling in the future than you give to your good feeling right now?

It’s a bit like backing away from a gorgeous table of gourmet delicacies because you can’t be sure what’s on the menu tomorrow.

I say it a bit differently in the video, and I’d love to hear how it lands with you. Please share in the comments. ♥

Let life teach you what you need to know & an experiment in the gift economy

This week I share reflections on not needing to know where you’re going, how it is going to work, or what is “right.” What if we don’t need to know these things before we try something new? What if life will teach us what we need to learn? I talk about this in terms of my experiment with the gift economy, and it looks to me like it applies to every area of life.

Where are you holding back because you don’t know what comes after your very next step? What are you not doing because you can’t be sure how it will work out? Play with the possibility that each step you take will show you something about the step after that.

Click here to see how I articulate the gift economy to prospective clients. 

Please share your questions and comments!

How to rock the game of life

This video is a bit longer than usual. It’s all about the freedom we have to make up whatever game we choose to play in life from what matters to what we create to how we keep score. We can’t control the outcomes, but we have infinite choice over the inputs. When we shift our focus from outcomes to inputs, we see that rocking the game of life is more like making art than it is about winning races. Along the way I touch on choosing to work on a gift basis and marrying The Charming Prince. I enjoyed sharing this ride with you, and I hope it leaves you with a good feeling for how much freedom, possibility, and joy are available to you. ♥

How the 3 Principles help: It’s probably not what you think

It’s common for those new to the Three Principles to get caught up in how precisely the Principles help. The implicit assumption is that “help” means “deliver a different experience.” But as we come to understand how Mind, Consciousness, and Thought produce our moment to moment experience of life, we are freed from preoccupation with the content of that experience. In this video I illustrate this with a story about breaking my wrist and invite you to consider where in your own life you see that your experience is coming from your thinking, not your circumstances.

I invite you to comment here. I’d love to know where you see this and where it looks to you like there are exceptions.

Would you like take a deeper look at these principles? Check out The Art of Living: Creating Magic and Meaning in Life and Work. Starts July 5.

An invitation to a different conversation about wealth

Charge Money for What You LoveFor several years I chafed against conventional thinking about pricing my services. I began to experiment with Pay What You Choose pricing for coaching, but I still wasn’t quite satisfied with where I had landed. A few months ago I shared my interest in the gift economy in a Facebook Group, and another member introduced me to Nicole Huguenin. Nicole graciously agreed to a Skype conversation, and we connected immediately. I was blown away by her insight into the wealth of possibilities available to us when we free our minds to think in new ways about business, money, value, and equity. I knew at once that I wanted to have her as a guest on the Wholeness Hangout.
After growing up in the boon of Silicon Valley and spending 15 years in the education sector, Nicole found it rather financially expensive and emotionally costly to do good work. After a hard stop and move across country she began to ask different questions of herself and communities. Questions such as:
  • What are my gifts?
  • How do I value them and how does society value them?
  • Can we all be rich?
  • Is it possible for all our needs be taken care of?

On Thursday, June 1, Nicole will be joining me for a special Wholeness Hangout, a free Zoom videoconference, to explore these and other questions. I hope you can join us. Click here for details and please spread the word.

If you’d like to see how I’m approaching pricing now, I describe it briefly on my coaching page.

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