Human beings are inherently resilient. We wobble, sometimes we wobble a lot. But there is something at our foundation that steadies us even in the midst of great upheaval. Wobbling doesn’t always feel good, but it doesn’t mean that we aren’t okay.
Now and throughout the year, as you consider the impact you are having and want to have in the world, consider not just the apparent importance of your role (the size of your game) but look also at the quality of your yes. We can never know when the most important conversation in the world is taking place!
Too often we try to improve our human experience by managing it. We celebrate our highs and try to maximize them. We critique our lows and try to root them out. Though we do it in all innocence, all that managing and editorializing actually interferes with our inborn ability to learn, grown, and adapt. In this video I share a story about the time I tried to sail a boat with my buns by way of illustrating the futility of managing our experience with our thinking.
At the Three Principles Global Community Conference in Los Angeles at the end of October, I was struck by an insight shared by Mara Gleason and Eirik Grunde Olsen, founders of One Solution. Mara and Eirik created a successful international conference in just five months, and one of the reasons it worked out is that they didn’t get hung up on getting the form right. Instead they stayed oriented to the infinite, limitless creative capacity out of which all forms emerge.
As I listened to Eirik and Mara I thought about all the times I have been stopped because of internal or external criticism. It occurred to me that stopping oneself because of criticism is akin to stopping a flower mid-bloom because something isn’t quite right. It just doesn’t make sense. If that sounds familiar to you, may this video wake up a different response to negative feedback.
Confusion happens when we obsess about what we can’t see and miss the fact that we can always see just enough for right now.
Why is it that the very insights we are so clear about needing are the ones that prove so elusive? Could it be that when we pre-specify an insight we’ve actually stopped looking for new thought?
A true insight is a fresh way of seeing. When we assume in advance that we know what we need, how it will feel when we get it, and how it will change our lives, we’re not really looking for insight at all. Insight comes when we open our minds and hearts and wills to what the Universe is actually serving up in the moment.