On the potential for gratitude for the biz side of your work

happy_rain_10-2013Two things came together last week to inspire this post: the  death of a friend and the approach of Thanksgiving in the USA.

One of the most shocking aspects of my friend’s death was the vacuum left by the sudden absence of his huge enthusiasm for life. Bob had an admirable capacity for engagement and enjoyment. It’s not just that he was cheerful, it was that his cheerfulness seemed to spring from a whole-hearted, full-bodied “YES” to life.

Bob’s enthusiasm has caused me to reflect on my mortality. But it is not so much mortality that is on my mind as it is gratitude.

Bob had a lot to be grateful for. He loved his work, and he always seemed to have as much of it as he wanted without exerting a lot of effort. He loved his wife and was loved by her, and they seemed to bring out in each other a relaxed exuberance. There was plenty of room for both individual and shared passions.

What occurs to me as my thoughts about mortality and gratitude mingle is that our capacity for gratitude is equal to our capacity for living large.

By living large I mean leaning into possibilities for things like joy, connection, creating, discovery. It’s got nothing to do with accomplishment, prestige, or external markers of success.

When you work for yourself, plenty of opportunities for living large come from doing work you enjoy. It can seem that taking care of business is the price you pay for that.

But what if taking care of business is not a price you pay but rather another opportunity to live large?

Over the years I’ve worked with hundreds of people who experience the business side of self-employment as a price they pay to do what they love. I fell into this gig because I have experienced it that way myself, and I realized that it can be different.

One question has continually revealed the difference. That question is, “Where is it written that (insert the business challenge or task of your choice) can’t or won’t match my values, intentions, and talents?

Or to put it in the positive: “What would this look like if it is part of living large?”

So now I’ll turn it over to you. Where do you find yourself hampered in business by habitual turns of thought? What if there are no rules saying it has to be that way?

What if you could take it on as part of living large?

What if you could be as grateful for the business side of things as you are for the work you love?

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6 Responses to On the potential for gratitude for the biz side of your work

  1. Lynda says:

    “One question has continually revealed the difference. That question is, “Where is it written that (insert the business challenge or task of your choice) can’t or won’t match my values, intentions, and talents?”
    Great reminder, and so beautifully put. Thanks, Molly—I needed that!

  2. Thank you for this insightful and beautifully crafted message. It helped me to reframe my thinking about my business and also inspires me about living large.

    • Molly says:

      I’m glad it’s resonating. I wasn’t expecting to write about living large, but it showed up. I guess part of living large is being willing to be surprised!

  3. Eva Fajardo says:

    there is a quote..” you will come to know a new happiness and a new freedom, you will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it..”
    dare i say .. it is true.. this is exactly what is happening as the new relationship with my business practice , the new relationship you helped me birth, continues to unfold. when i can see it !
    work- life balance is emerging as central to the integration. I love the gift , the ringing bell of clarity in your sentence…
    “I mean leaning into possibilities for things like joy, connection, creating, discovery. It’s got nothing to do with accomplishment, prestige, or external markers of success.”
    gratitude is central on this journey. Thank you. and all.
    - See more at: http://shaboominc.com/potential-gratitude-biz-side-work/#sthash.EY2ZMFoK.dpuf

    • Molly says:

      “Gratitude is central on this journey,” yes! And I love the quote you started with. There is nothing to regret, not even anything to get over, just another step in a marvelous, sometimes mysterious, journey. ♥

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