To push or not to push, that is the question

To push or not to push, that is the question

Last week on the monthly Goldilocks coaching call we talked about planning, goals, and productivity, and when to pressure yourself to follow through and when not to. After all, setting a goal-less goal and navigating from a nice feeling might work some of the time,...
Why liking yourself works

Why liking yourself works

Once upon a time I gave myself singing lessons for my 40th birthday. I had always loved to sing, and I thought I had a pretty nice voice. I thought it would be grand to expand my somewhat limited range, become a better singer, and generally have more fun with music....
Why planning might not be a good idea (How peering into the future quashed true love)

Why planning might not be a good idea (How peering into the future quashed true love)

When I was a senior in high school my true love was a sophomore in college. That was back in the day when long distance calls were expensive, and we wrote piles of earnest letters full of angst and idealism. One day I received a letter that signaled the beginning of...
Why working on yourself doesn’t work (and the simple thing that does)

Why working on yourself doesn’t work (and the simple thing that does)

Like every human being I’ve ever met, I am sometimes discontented. No big deal. But during a recent spell of gritchiness, I got the idea that I shouldn’t feel that way. Given my deepening understanding of the spiritual principles behind the human...