What will it take to make coaching anti-racist?

Can coaching become anti-racist?

Black woman working at a laptop

I’ve been a coach since January, 1996, and a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) since March of that year. I joined ICF because I wanted to learn and grow in this emerging profession, I wanted to locate myself in the larger coaching community, and i wanted a way to demonstrate my commitment to professionalism, which for me includes being accountable to something outside of myself for my performance.

I know that coaches, by and large, are in this profession to do good, so it was no surprise that ICF would publish a Statement Condemning Racism and Systemic Inequality. I’m proud that ICF has stepped up, and I look forward to working within ICF and outside of it to turn this statement into a substantive ongoing commitment to dismantling white supremacy and patriarchy within coaching, coach training, and to the extent we have influence, all the systems and communities we interact with.

Here’s the comment I shared in response to ICF’s statement:

This is a good beginning, and we have a lot of work to do.

ACTO (Association of Coach Training Organizations) has made exploring what a real commitment to diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging in coaching and coach training might really mean. We devoted two entire conferences to that theme and have made a commitment to integrating it into every aspect of the organization’s work. We have formulated an ACTO Stand for Diversity, Equity, Inclusion & Belonging as follows:

“ACTO is committed to creating diversity, equity, inclusion and belonging in the coaching profession through calling forth, honoring and inviting the uniqueness of all individuals and diverse life experiences.

“In support of this stand, we acknowledge and are committed to eliminating the negative impact of personal and systemic bias, privilege and oppression, which may be conscious or unconscious, intentional or unintentional, overt or subtle.

“As coach trainers, we are tasked with creating the future of the coaching profession. We commit to providing dialogue, learning and resources and to cultivating personal and organizational responsibility in alignment with this stand, at ACTO, for each of our students, members and member organizations.”

As an ICF member since 1996 and an ACTO member for about 10 years (first through coach training orgs and now as an individual member), I wholeheartedly endorse this stand. I look forward to seeing ICF address systemic racism–which is related to but not the same as cultural competency–with the same rigor, resources, and commitment that we have brought to credentialing and accreditation.

I encourage all coaches and coach trainers to consider deeply how our profession, however unwittingly, has enshrined the cultural norms of white supremacy. A good way to enter into that question is to download and study White Supremacy Culture by Tema Okun (building on work by the late Kenneth Jones). For example, in what ways are individualism, fear of open conflict, and a sense of urgency based into our competencies?

There is also an excellent Google doc, Scaffolded Anti-racist Resources, organized by stages of white identity development. You can use this with yourselves, your mentees, and your clients to identify appropriate learning tools.

Without concerted effort, coaching will unwittingly perpetuate the very things that ICF is taking a stand against in this statement. We have incredible breadth and depth in our ranks. We have hearts, minds, bodies, and souls that we are committed to using for the highest good. But most of us are working from and in systems that are inherently racist, and all our good intentions can cause incalculable damage if we do not challenge and support each other to make radical structural changes.

I know we can do this.

Will we?

Side note: As I looked for an image to go with this post, I noticed the layers of socialization and judgment that I carry about Black bodies and that I have been trained to anticipate in professional circles. I considered a photo of a Black woman working from home with a toddler at her knee and a baby on her lap. I thought about several that showed Black professional women with high heels, cleavage, or body-accentuating clothing. What images and associations come to mind as you read those sentences? What judgements do you form? Have you been trained to see certain styles of dress as unprofessional? Is natural hair professional? We need to become aware of these layers of meaning making and then be accountable for interrogating them and dismantling those that do not serve the wellbeing and worth of all beings.

Postcard from May 2020

take what you need give what you can by Nikki Crawford, Your Peaceful SpaceWelcome.

Welcome to friends, prospective clients, colleagues, and strangers.

Welcome to fellow human beings of all shapes, colors, sizes, gender expressions, and ability.

Welcome to engagement with the art of living, where messiness is a given, love is a verb, and humility nourishes us and prunes us by turns.

As you’ll see if you poke around this site and my social media accounts, reality is my playground but not my limit. Some days I muck about in the smellier and messier spaces of human experience; other days I soar with the divine. My commitment is to remembering both to the best of my ability.

For most of my life I’ve been devoted to growth and insight for myself and others. I have come to understand that this cannot be an individual pursuit. As my friend and teacher, Desiree Lynn Adaway frequently reminds me, “We get free together.”

As a human being I am committed to the liberation of all beings. The more progress I make, , the more clearly I see what a beginner I am. That’s good news: there is so much more possible for us all than we can imagine–so much more generosity, generativity, and freedom. Let us never accept that our momentary failure of vision or understanding accurately defines our limits.

As a coach I remain committed to training and developing truly masterful coaches. I want to better understand and articulate both the universal principles that undergird coaching mastery and the skills that express it. I am also clearer than ever that coaching as a means of advancing human potential has a profound and unrealized responsibility to address inequities at the individual and collective levels.

I have come to see that every misstep can break ground for radical connection, insight, and freedom. Sometimes we feel we ourselves are being broken in that process. It’s important to respect that, to exercise care with ourselves and each other.

I’m here for everyone who refuses to accept that our freedom and joy must be secured at the cost of anyone else’s.

Now, to work. ♥

Note: I wrote this as a new welcome message for my Facebook page as cities around the United States are burning in response to the ongoing oppression, torture, and murder of people of color in our country. It is a time of rising fascism and white supremacy worldwide. It is also the time of COVID19, and people of color, disabled people, and millions of “essential workers” laboring for less than a living wage (including many health care providers) are bearing the brunt of the virus. 

 

What art tells us about life

I frequently use art as a metaphor for living life wisely and well. There’s The Art of Living, an exploration of how we are designed to live creatively and joyfully and the potential for waking up every day like children eager to paint on walls and splash in mud puddles. (Imagine!) There’s the Reboot Your Life Creative Immersion Retreat I’m doing with my friend, Cherie Ray, at the end of the year. For over 20 years I’ve been coaching people to be visionary (even revolutionary) and effective, whether they are corporate executives, music teachers, or boat builders. In every field, the fundamentals are the same.

The questions we ask ourselves to help us live wisely and well invite different answers when we ask them as if we were making art. When we realize that human beings are inherently creative it just makes sense to lean into this way of thinking about our challenges and opportunities.

 

Are you playing “What’s wrong with this picture?” with your life?

Are you playing “What’s wrong with this picture?” with your life?

Too often we try to change things by tweaking a problem that we don’t realize we created. We play “What’s wrong with this picture?” when we could simply paint a new picture.

Here’s the deal: Every problem we face is constructed of our preconceptions, assumptions, memories, and expectations. We simply cannot see beyond the limitations of our current thinking. However, when we insightfully understand how those limitations work, the mind spontaneously opens to new possibilities. It’s not a trick or technique or practice; it’s the natural and inevitable by-product of insight into how the mind works.

If you’d like to experience for yourself the possibility of shifting from tweaking the picture you see to creating a whole new picture, join me for The Art of Living. It’s a 12-week encounter with magic, meaning, and your creative capacity. Together we will explore the deeper intelligence available to every human being, an intelligence that can guide you in the creation of what you want in life, whether you think it is possible at the outset or not.

Almost everyone who has done this work for me comes back for more–not because they need more in order to be whole, but because they finally realize that they don’t need a thing. Participants report greater ease, optimism, and resilience. They feel better about themselves and their lives. They experience massive reductions in anxiety, second-guessing, and analysis-paralysis. And when they do get caught up in those things, they know how to find their way back home to peace of mind and clarity.​​​​​​​

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Things happen for a reason. Really?

“Things happen for a reason.”

You’ve heard it. I’ve heard it. Maybe you’ve said it; I certainly have. And today I realized that it’s not all that helpful.

Maybe things happen for a reason; maybe they don’t. As my mentor George Pransky likes to say, “That’s beyond my pay grade.” In other words, I don’t actually know.

What I know down to my toenails is that things happen. And really, it’s more useful to keep our attention on that simple fact so we can resources we can encounter, experience, and respond to what happens, as it happens, with our whole selves. It doesn’t make a lot of sense to divert attention we can use for that to figuring out the cosmic reason or lack of reason for what’s going on.

Sure, in quiet moments, it can be interesting, even rewarding, to muse about why things happen. But on a go forward basis, it probably makes more sense to simply notice that things certainly do happen and that human beings are designed beautifully to respond.

What comes up for you? Tell me about it! Please comment. ♥

Join me for The Art of Living: Rediscovering Magic and Meaning in Life and Work

The Art of Living is a 12-week encounter with magic, meaning, and your innate resourcefulness and resilience. Together we will tapping into the deeper intelligence available to every human being, an intelligence that will guide you in the creation of what you want in life, whether you think it is possible at the outset or not. Starts November 9, 2017. Click here for details.

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