If you are reading this, you’ve probably thought a fair amount about how to promote your work. My guess is that some of that thinking has been fraught with feelings ranging from queasiness to outright disgust.
As if that weren’t uncomfortable enough, you probably feel pressure to make the right choices, not to mention pressure to follow through on those choices, whether you want to or not.
This article is about finding your way through the noisy landscape of self promotion so that you can make wise choices, feel good about them, and thrive.
Maybe you shouldn’t think about it.
It just makes sense that smart choices begin with smart thinking. But sometimes thinking about how to promote yourself is the worst thing you can do.
When you’re wrapped around the axle, running in circles, stuck in your stuff (or is it just me?), the more you try to think of the right thing to do, the more confused you become.
Then, if you happen to think that you shouldn’t be confused or that you can’t afford to be confused, you may find yourself dodging fear, shame, resentment–or any number of negative emotions that ride on the coattails of confusion.
Need I point out that your thinking in moments like these is less than helpful?
Hey, there’s no fault or blame here. It’s just a fact that human beings sometimes lose contact with their innate wisdom and the quality of their thinking takes a dive. Don’t take it personally.
It’s easy to tell when thinking will or won’t help
A simple, reliable, even foolproof way to know if your thinking isn’t helpful is to notice how you feel.
Feel crummy? No offense, but it’s a cinch that your thinking is cramped, limited, and unimaginative. (Except when it comes to what The Charming Prince calls “the parade of horrible imaginables.”) At times like this, thinking more can’t possibly help.
Instead, step back. And I don’t mean, “Step back and think about it.” I mean just step back.
Step back and hang out. Dance. Make art. Sleep. Do something else until your thinking and feeling change. Because if you leave them alone, they will.
Trust a nice feeling
Feeling nice? It’s a cinch that your thinking is spacious, creative, and resourceful.
That nice feeling is a sign that you are in touch with your innate wellbeing. That means that you are also in touch with wisdom. These are the times to lean into the nice feeling and allow your thinking to flow.
In short, let yourself be guided by a nice feeling.
It’s not about putting your head in the sand
You might wonder if stepping back when your thinking feels crummy is like hiding your head in the sand. Aren’t you just avoiding what you need to do?
I think not. Stepping back from your thinking when you feel crummy and trusting it when you feel nice is the opposite of putting your head in the sand. It’s more like dancing on the beach.
When you trust a nice feeling to guide your decisions, you naturally show up in a more relaxed yet engaged way. You smile more. You listen better. You send out a good vibe.
And that’s the essence of effective (dare I say authentic?) promotion.