Things happen for a reason. Really?

“Things happen for a reason.”

You’ve heard it. I’ve heard it. Maybe you’ve said it; I certainly have. And today I realized that it’s not all that helpful.

Maybe things happen for a reason; maybe they don’t. As my mentor George Pransky likes to say, “That’s beyond my pay grade.” In other words, I don’t actually know.

What I know down to my toenails is that things happen. And really, it’s more useful to keep our attention on that simple fact so we can resources we can encounter, experience, and respond to what happens, as it happens, with our whole selves. It doesn’t make a lot of sense to divert attention we can use for that to figuring out the cosmic reason or lack of reason for what’s going on.

Sure, in quiet moments, it can be interesting, even rewarding, to muse about why things happen. But on a go forward basis, it probably makes more sense to simply notice that things certainly do happen and that human beings are designed beautifully to respond.

What comes up for you? Tell me about it! Please comment. ♥

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  1. Carol

    This is very timely for me. I was just in a class where someone revealed my musings as to why I had gotten into a serious, injurious car accident to the whole group. It felt like a betrayal…but more than that, NO ONE else has the right to muse about why something difficult happened to someone else…especially not to their face…and maybe even we should not do this to ourselves. I just learned that the hard way. Now to see if I can figure out a way to text this to her.

    • Molly

      Thank you for commenting, Carol. I’m sorry you had that experience and happy that this video gave some fresh context. I’ve said things just as innocently, thoughtlessly, and unhelpfully so many times in the past, and doubtless will again in the future. Fortunately we are all designed to learn. ♥


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